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Originally Posted by allaboutmusic
I just stumbled across this slightly lapsed thread and just thought I'd comment on the being sexual thing... as a guy who always used to stumble into friend-zone, I was told that you should always indicate some kind of sexual interest fairly early. This doesn't necessarily mean that you want to have sex with them, purely that your interest is not purely platonic... in my case I accomplish that by flirting where I would previously have been cordial. From your description I'm guessing that these guys were a lot more forward than I am though.
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"Indicate sexual interest." How does one go about that and still be respectful? HMM.
Tonsil hockey in the parking lot after a fun evening out usually sends the message without fail.
Grabbing a boob? Less subtle. Talking dirty? Okay, back to your ice cream truck, Chester.
She's a woman, you're a man... you got the right parts to do the scrunchy faces dance... so you shouldn't have to indicate anything if you have chemistry. It comes naturally. Being a little assertive helps the chase. Don't throw out the shocker or some tasteless blah-blah... just act on your non-gendered human instincts. I do it all the time because it makes it easier for me to get over the voices in my head.
Shared self-talk. "I think I'm going to kiss you." "I think we should do the sex."
It would seem that society has casually dictated that women are the secret clubhouse and that men have to figure out the covert handshake or mysterious handshake to get inside. This is not the case. We're all humans.
Friend zone? Blargh. Smells like a case of you not being ballsy enough... or her wanting a free meal instead of a fuck.