Some good advice on the subject...
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Originally Posted by William Shakespeare
Yet here, Laertes! Aboard, aboard for shame!
The wind sits in the shoulder of your sail,
And you are stay'd for.
There ... my blessing with thee!
And these few precepts in thy memory
Look thou character. Give thy thoughts no tongue,
Nor any unproportion'd thought his act.
Be thou familiar, but by no means vulgar.
Those friends thou hast, and their adoption tried,
Grapple them to thy soul with hoops of steel;
But do not dull thy palm with entertainment
Of each new-hatch'd, unfledg’d comrade. Beware
Of entrance to a quarrel but, being in,
Bear't that th' opposed may beware of thee.
Give every man thy ear, but few thy voice;
Take each man's censure, but reserve thy judgement.
Costly thy habit as thy purse can buy,
But not express'd in fancy; rich, not gaudy;
For the apparel oft proclaims the man;
And they in France of the best rank and station
Are of a most select and generous chief in that.
Neither a borrower, nor a lender be;
For loan oft loses both itself and friend,
And borrowing dulls the edge of husbandry.
This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.
Farewell; my blessing season this in thee!
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At the same time, I wouldn't call changing your personality an impersonation, unless you're trying to duplicate or become a specific person. Just having different personas is totally normal. I would never swear, smoke, or drink around my mother...does this mean I have a different persona when I am around her than around my friends? Slightly, but it's more like the same me with a different filter applied. I am not a different person, I just put up different filters.
Another example: I love board games, working on cars, and magic the gathering. When I was single and out at the bars, would I discuss any of those three things with the ladies I was buying drinks for? Of course not. I'd talk about work, or school, or maybe if I had a race coming up I'd talk about that, but I wasn't going to tell them how excited I was about my new exhaust, or how I hoped I won the bid on the Darksteel Collosus playset on ebay that night. I wouldn't lie about it if it came up, but you have to know how to present yourself.
Take a good long introspective look, and be sure that all your 'personas' reflect a facet of your true self. There's a difference between being well rounded and socially adept, and being two faced.