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Originally Posted by LoganSnake
... I am personally acquainted with a man who almost lost his parenting rights for giving his son a spank on the ass at a grocery store because he wouldn't stop screaming to buy him a certain cereal he wanted. Some old lady thought of it as child abuse and called child services. I won't go into details, but those who have been through it probably know the hell it is to deal with them.
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The problem here isn't with the old lady, but with the fact that in today's (American) society, police/child services can't keep their mitts off of a chance to completely ruin the life of a probably awesome parent in every other case.
America's current stance on spanking has, in my opinion, become a LOT ridiculous. Spanking (defined as a quick one or two smacks on the bottom or the back of a hand) is in NO way child abuse! In many cases there is no other way to get the attention of a two-four year old whose brain capacity is not able to comprehend the kindly-said logic of "don't run into the street, Johnny! You might get hurt!"
That being said, I have done my best to only used spanking where my kids
would be injured through disobedience. They remember the smack on the bottom as a consequence to their actions...and generally don't DO those things again!
Please note that I have defined spanking quite rigidly. I do NOT consider spanking (with a hand) as otherwise defined above to be abuse. However, I've heard stories of my friends being beaten silly, or spanked with paddles, belts, cords, etc. I'm quite certain that THOSE were true cases of abuse where our police & legal system's time would have been well-spent.