UKking

Have you heard this theory?

That men are naturally better able to separate sex and love, at least better than women.

That this is possibly because men are the invaders and women the invaded (physically that is).

That women are more likely to require intense feelings of love and trust because they have to accept a man inside of them.

I have to say that when I originally thought about this, I believed it.

But I am now having second thoughts.

While I accept the idea that women are more likely to require love and trust before sex, I don't think it has anything to do with physical structures of genitals. I hypothesis that it's a learned cultural behavior. A cultural gender role. I can imagine the roles reversed.

What if women were the more aggressive. And men were taught that women just want them for their penis. Would we then be saying something different?

Would we be saying that men require love and trust because their penises are being consumed by vaginas?

I think men and women have the same sex drives, and men are better able to separate love and sex. Not because of anything physical, but because men are NOT taught to connect them. I mean we are told to connect love and sex, but we are not coerced like women are.

Women are taught to be over-protective of their vaginas in a sense. I am not a woman so I don't know how it happens, but I would assume that at some point around puberty, women are made aware that men are going to want them sexually and they should not give it up. Men definitely do not get this impression about sex.

It's my opinion that our culture allows men to be men and in some way prevents women from being women. I've been hearing these stories about women not knowing anything about their own vaginas as late as into their twenties. I have to say, I feel sorry for those girls. I couldn't imagine.