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It’s about getting comfortable with your own feelings for women.
State your attraction for her early. Tell her what makes hot. How the curve of her lips makes her look very devilish and sexy or how her yes flash every time she looks up at you or just how hot her ass looks when she walks.
I think this relieves allot of pressure and puts you on a level playing field. She knows that you find her attractive and you know that she knows that you find her attractive. We can all relax now.
Touch. I never sit across the table from a girl. I love restaurants that have booths so we can both snuggle up on one side. Learn to leave your hand just a little longer or apply just a little more pressure then necessary. Get comfortable with the idea that you want this girl in your arms. You don’t want to let her go. You want to explore her body. The way you touch communicates this.
Embrace the fact that she wants to get laid. This makes it really for both of you. It’s not a game. She isn’t something you win. Her body isn’t something she gives to you as a reward for being a good boy. You both want the same thing – a great passionate relationship – and sex is just a little perk you are both interested in. Now you are both free to enjoy your date as you wish.
There is allot of talk about sex in my post. I am no trivializing all other aspect in a blooming relationship. It’s just that sex is the elephant in the room allot of people have trouble making peace with; which actually prevents them from having truly genuine interactions when we become relaxed about our lust for each other everything else becomes so easy. That tension of “does he/she like me”, “am I doing/saying the right thing” goes away. Hope this helps.
Cheers Soma
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