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Originally Posted by ratbastid
You're still not in touch with what it costs you to be holding on to this, by the way. Honest to god, you've swallowed the poison, and now you're waiting for him to die. If nothing else, think of this: he won't be alive forever, and neither will you. You sure you want to spend the time you both have on the planet nurturing your hurt in your relationship with him?
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This is a very good observation.
I can say without question, that you do not want waste time. I had many unresolved issues with my father. I figured I would get around to addressing them. Then he was dead and I was left with a lot of unresolved issues.
Trust me. Let it go. You do not need to carry this kind of junk around with you. And be very clear that it is, as others have suggested, all about you.