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Originally Posted by TotalMILF
So, instead of building my son's cognitive and verbal skills and nurturing his rapidly developing mind you'd rather I just hit him, utter a monosyllabic "No" and leave it at that?? Brilliant.
You don't seem to be reading the part where I say "I can never catch him doing it." He won't be able to understand me saying "No" if there's nothing to say "No" to. Trust me, if I can catch him I plan on pulling his hand out of his mouth and telling him "no" very firmly, followed by an explanation as to why we do not bite our nails. Slapping his hand is pointless and only encourages him to hit.
Also, how many children have you parented, and where are you getting the idea that I want to be his friend instead of his mother?
Sorry, I was a bit cranky to begin with but bad parenting advice from non-parents just irks me.
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you act as if tapping him on the hand will make him resent you for life or something. a tap never hurt anybody or made them to be a serial killer.
as far as never catching him, well then there is no real fix for that. he will learn eventually that doing that is not ok since mom says no. just give it time.
people learn from pain. and a small tap will not make him a bad person.
"do as i say, not as i do." is something that comes to mind.
as far as raising a child, I am still in the process. he is 7 right now.
as for me seeing you as wanting to be his friend, i never said you said that, i just implied, and if you clarify it for me, then I can understand better. sorry to come off as an accusation. but i got it from when you try to talk to him about it and explain it. at two he wont know, but he will understand no. you will be able to make his cognitive and verbal skills grow in other areas, and sometimes, "no means, NO." thats all the answer you need sometimes.