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Originally Posted by soma
So I was thinking I probably have to approach this situation a bit differently than before. Should I try to talk to her about it and be consoling to her? Or should I just try to have as much fun with her as I can so she can forget about it? Or a combination of both? I'd be interested to hear your replies on this.
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Don't change the way you treat her. If you've seen her more than once, she obviously enjoys your company. She's trying to move forward, away from the hurt, so don't remind her.
Since I'm in a nearby boat (although the ex and I still talk often, there was no "never wanna see you"), when I date a guy, I definitely don't want him bringing it up, especially if he's heard about it from someone else. I'm trying to get over the Other Guy and I sure as hell don't want to begin a new relationship with conversations about relationships that didn't work out. I will be the one to bring it up if and when I feel it necessary or important.
The best consoling you can do in this situation is to be the guy who makes her forget. Show her a good time, listen and talk with her. Give her time. Although you may feel that you're compared to him, let it go. This will pass with time once she sees what an amazing guy you are.
