Fast Forward

The big difference being that your relationship with your step-father was not based upon a deviant factor. "Genetics are overrated", you say. But you are in your late 20s. I don't know if you have any children. I do. Four, if you total them. I can say that "genetics" is a serious thing to a father, as I see it, and it cannot be compared to a woman whose motherhood is seldom contested.

I must confess that I am a romantic, and being so the subject of genetics may be more sensitive to me than to someone who is not romantic. Sex and romance go hand-in-hand from my point of view. Conceiving a child in a loving relationship actually means something to me.

I'm not saying that you are wrong to consider a relationship to step-children less important. I am saying that your footing is less stable once you've discovered that your mate has falsified and cultivated your relationship to that child and that that relationship can sour no less drastically than with a legitimate child who's caught in the turmoil of divorce for any deviant reason.

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Weak, unqualified people, Issmmm, are always looking for a quick, sure-fire way of detecting truth from fiction. I'm no exception and so this quote of yours smells of a rat to me, on your wife's part.
Sounds to me like your wife's a compulsuve liar who'll say anything to get out of a tough spot.


But on the very same token I'm suspicious of your own integrity on the subject when you say .....
I'm inclined to believe that you deserved one another.