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Originally Posted by Issmmm
Thanks T, I'm OK though. It's just a burning question that pops up every now and again. He IS my son genitics or not.
The thing I have a problem with is, what if the situation underwhich he finds out (if it's true) is dire or hurtful for him or his brother?
Me? I'm OK, we've been divorced over ten years now so I'm somewhat indifferent towards her.
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If he finds out, tell him the truth about how you feel...that genetics didn't matter, and you are his father, and he is your son..no matter what. If HE wants to find out the biology shit, then it will be HIS decision. I, personally, would not want to find out at that age (or any age) that the man I have loved and known as my father might not have been my sperm donor. That, to me, is irrelevant. I think I would understand him protecting me from a 'maybe' theory that could cause so much hurt and anger, possibly over nothing (if, in fact, the 'other guy' wasn't the father).
You know your son...do you think he would want to find out? Remember, this is still only a potential issue. That's alot of boat rocking over a maybe...
I wish I could help...it's a shit situation, no matter how you slice it. Just be sure you weigh all options before opening up a can of worms that can't ever be closed again, know what I mean?