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Old 12-10-2007, 05:41 AM   #17 (permalink)
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OK here's the whole story, and to ShaniFaye and others who waited for, big ups.

Years ago I walked in on my current ex wife and my sister's current ex husband in an embrace. I didn't really think anything of it, but I said to her that if I didn't know better, I'd think something was going on. I laid down for a nap, I'd just worked a bunch of hours and was to cook dinner before church.

Later, she woke me with tears in her eyes, bawling out her confession. She insisted that it was only a kiss and it only happened once. I countered that a kiss is the beginning of something, how am I to believe it was only a kiss? If you can cross that threshold, what's stopping going further?
I talked to my sister. She had married beneath her. Not that we were above anyone, he was just a weak, noncontributing, goofy bastard.
I ask my then wife, even if it was a kiss, why she did it. She said I didn't tell her she was pretty. Fact is she wasn't. Our only son was approaching a year now and her body was absolutely the same or larger as when we left the hospital. When I left for work she was in her bed clothes with her bed hair. When I came in from work she was in her bed clothes with her bed hair. She only got dressed when we would see people, you know shopping or going to church or something.
Anyway I loved her and the family we'd started. If I could be assured that it was only a kiss and it wouldn't happen again, I could put it behind me and go on. All of us talked about it over a meal and long story short, everybody stayed together.
Over the next few months we found ourselves pregnant. I was a dumbass cuz it didn't occur to me at the time. But to my credit something happened that took precedence over almost everything else. She was hospitalized for a mental condition. It was the first of many over the next few years.
The doctors said it was psuedo seizures. She gets overwhelmed by trying to suppress and express profound anger, frustration, etc., that she has a seizure that's not really a seizure.
I visited every day, sat and talked with the Docs about what I could do to help, until I caught a knowing glance. I was then cut off from the Docs, you know doctor patient privilege. After that I still visited, but just going through the motions.
What strengthened my suspicion was a set of pictures that showed my son and his cousin, born a couple months before looking like veritable twins and looking like my brother in law.
Today my sons are 23 and 22. My former brother in law is wanted by the law for some credit card scheme. My ex has remarried to an obvious homosexual. Trust me that's not jealousy, my boys said it first. They think it's a joke.

I haven't said anything to my son, aside from obvious reasons, because he is reeeaaally sensitive about everything. Imagine the blow to him.
Why worry about it now? Wouldn't it be a bigger blow for him to find out from someone other than her or me? What if some medical thing came up? What if?
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