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mixedmedia · 11-30-2007, 08:23 AM

I understand that there is hysteria surrounding this subject. Yet, my own kids were molested and I don't surround it with catastrophic emotions about the theft of their innocence. It's not that I fail to be cognizant of that to an extent, it is something I regret, no doubt. But, most of my bristly emotions come from the sense of my children being betrayed and exploited by someone they trusted.

So maybe I am not the most appropriate person to be commenting on this subject, lol.

But the bug in my ear in this discussion revolves around that theme of betrayal and exploitation. Pedophilia is a sexual obsession held by adults, not often associated with the concept of romantic love (although sometimes it is, to be sure). Most often pedophilia is a desire to have sex with children and nothing more. Therefore, if it were to become acceptable then what we would be accepting is the common perception of children as sex objects to be exploited by adults, not as sexual equals in mature relationships. Which is why you can't really compare it to the acceptance of female sexual desire, homosexuality or s&m, in my opinion.

I'm writing this fast, hope it makes sense.

Also, just on another personal note, I embarked on a sexual relationship with a 35 year old man when I was just a few days past my 16th birthday and I can tell you with complete authority that even though I was a fairly mature person for my age, I was not ready to handle the responsibility nor the consequences. For certain though, at the time I believed I was. Granted, some teenagers may be able to navigate such a relationship just fine, but most cannot.

Also, just to be technically correct, not all child molesters are pedophiles.
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Pedophilia is an obsession with pre-pubescent children, not adolescents.

11-30-2007, 08:23 AM	#23 (permalink)
mixedmedia has all her shots. Location: Florida	I understand that there is hysteria surrounding this subject. Yet, my own kids were molested and I don't surround it with catastrophic emotions about the theft of their innocence. It's not that I fail to be cognizant of that to an extent, it is something I regret, no doubt. But, most of my bristly emotions come from the sense of my children being betrayed and exploited by someone they trusted. So maybe I am not the most appropriate person to be commenting on this subject, lol. But the bug in my ear in this discussion revolves around that theme of betrayal and exploitation. Pedophilia is a sexual obsession held by adults, not often associated with the concept of romantic love (although sometimes it is, to be sure). Most often pedophilia is a desire to have sex with children and nothing more. Therefore, if it were to become acceptable then what we would be accepting is the common perception of children as sex objects to be exploited by adults, not as sexual equals in mature relationships. Which is why you can't really compare it to the acceptance of female sexual desire, homosexuality or s&m, in my opinion. I'm writing this fast, hope it makes sense. Also, just on another personal note, I embarked on a sexual relationship with a 35 year old man when I was just a few days past my 16th birthday and I can tell you with complete authority that even though I was a fairly mature person for my age, I was not ready to handle the responsibility nor the consequences. For certain though, at the time I believed I was. Granted, some teenagers may be able to navigate such a relationship just fine, but most cannot. Also, just to be technically correct, not all child molesters are pedophiles. and Pedophilia is an obsession with pre-pubescent children, not adolescents. __________________ Most people go through life dreading they'll have a traumatic experience. Freaks were born with their trauma. They've already passed their test in life. They're aristocrats. - Diane Arbus PESSIMISM, n. A philosophy forced upon the convictions of the observer by the disheartening prevalence of the optimist with his scarecrow hope and his unsightly smile. - Ambrose Bierce Last edited by mixedmedia; 11-30-2007 at 08:42 AM.. Reason: Automerged Doublepost