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I have heard the advice that it is best to put the sex thing out there first. The reason for this is so that you don't have to keep wondering throughout the date when you should ask, or if there are extra meanings within what the other person says, or is your waiting for the right moment to ask if it would happen stressing you out, causing you to "act" in some way instead of being yourself. Asking your date right off if there was a possibility of sex that night doesn't necessarily mean the guy is a pig or a one-dimensional guy. He may be clearing the decks, getting that unspoken element out of the way so that he can focus on the date as it unfolds.
Did you see the scene in "Something About Mary" where the character was advised to masturbate before his date so that he didn't have that unresolved energy throwing him off and affecting his interaction with the girl he was seeing that day? I think that in some cases anyway the asking about sex at the beginning accomplishes the same goal.
Of course, I am not the best one to advise, because I had only one real first date in a quarter of a century . . . it lasted an amazing 24 hours and we are now living together.
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