Originally Posted by Diz

OKAY!
This is the deal. I am a size 34B, sometimes a 36B depending upon the brand. I am also 5'7" and about 130lbs....to help illustrate my 'frame'...I am tall with smaller breasts...meaning, buying bras is a major headache because one that fits in the 'cup' does NOT fit comfortably around my rib cage. I have compromised with him to buy smaller bras (which are pretty uncomfortable) to ensure my nips don't ever show. The only ones I could find are pointy and i hate them...but I do agree with him in the fact it's not so cool to have my nips showing.

For those of you who said I need to buy clothes that fit or are not so slutty or however it was put...you have NO CLUE! (I meant that nicely...it's just comical to me) I am pretty tom-boyish. I love working in the garage with the boys yadda yadda. I have NEVER owned a skirt shorter than my knees--except for one for the house for Diz--and only wear skirts/dresses when I must! I don't where things that are 'bearing'...I just where normal things. We work at the MO National Guard so casual dress is required. I wear polos, v necks, those kinds of things.

I have worn undershirts that have an elastic band around the top and quite frankly I am sick of wearing them, for one they are uncomfortable and for two, that's an extra layer of clothing and it's HOT! I have a tank top undershirt that is a bit looser and comfortable that I got at Target, and he complains of it because the neck is loose, hence where you can see my bra if I bend over.

Another reason I may find his requests so annoying is I am generally and optimistic person and think good of everyone. My best friends are 5 guys and one girl...they are all basically my bros as I have lived with them all at one time or another...maybe part of the reason why this issue is more annoying to me that Diz makes such a stink of it...I don't know.

Basically what it boils down to is I am 21, have small boobs...am ok with that, but would not be mad if they magically grew over night...haha and I refuse to be uncomfortable. I do want to resolve this issue, but I'm such an odd 'shape/size' it makes everything so damn difficult. I, personally, don't see what the big deal is if my bra shows...to me it's just material...and I think he should be lucky I'm not one of those 'high' fashion girls b/c I have seen those girls that wear a shirt and then a lacy bra underneath that sticks out above their shirt...I would never DREAM of wearing something like that! hehe

So, all, your comments have been greatly appreciated. Hope this LONG description fully explains the situation and maybe answers some questions...please keep your comments coming...

Oh and one last thing, Diz and I have an 18month old together...and I go to college and work full time...We are pretty tired a lot..I'm at a very young age to have a plate so full...I enjoy being able to feel feminine since many of my hobbies are...not. I know Diz does not mean it this way at all, but this whole issue makes me kind of feel like he is trying to take away my 'feminity?' by making me feel like he is trying to 'cover me up'....does that make any sense?

Thanks All!