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sultana: i think you're getting solid advice here.
if you were the type of person who likes to plan things, nearly compulsively, i would say that perhaps you could relax that perspective a bit. get the penis out of your mind, and just concentrate on making a new friend...or finding out that a certain guy won't work. do you get along, or not? the birds and the bees will take care of itself. if you don't want to get bizzy up front, then don't feel compelled to. whether or not i'd suggest holding it against the guy would depend on his particular approach, but i've never gone on a first date and
expected to get laid. unless you're taking cash for these 'dates?'
seriously, i'd just relax a bit. when you hit someone with chemistry, you'll know it. and after you've gotten to know them,
then you can fuck their brains out. nothing like a stress-relief...
