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Originally Posted by spectre
Quoted for truth.
Sultana, you're over-thinking this. Do what Tec said, plus, make a suggestion for the first date. Go someplace where you can just sit and talk for a while to get to know one another. Going on one date doesn't mean you're automatically committed to this person, so if there's something about them that you wouldn't want (clingy, psycho, etc.) you'll find out easier, plus there won't be any added pressure since it'll be in a more laid back setting (like at a coffee shop or something like that).
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Exactly. Make the first date or first couple of activities things that honestly allow you to get to know someone without any extra tension or pressure to make things romantic or physical. Go hiking, or to a museum, or a ball game, or to a long lunch somewhere. Set it for a fairly early time of day on a day that you have specific, in stone plans for later in the evening (or make them after the fact). Then tell him "I'll meet you at noon next Saturday. Just so you know, I need to be at my best friend's house for dinner at 6, so I'll need to skip out at 5. That should give us plenty of time to *insert whatever activity is planned here* though."
I personally would appreciate and respect the honesty, and it would make me even more inclined to communicate the same way.