I wish I coud fix you, I need fixing myself!
I think for most people dating is pretty stressful because you just want things to work out, and for there to be no misunderstandings or failure to connect woth one another.
In reality often dating is made up of a good deal of awkwardness, fumbling and confusion.
It's still worth it though when after a few failed ones you hit the jackpot
But it's a tough game, and I also find that often it's hard to find a guy who's on the same level in terms of what they are willing to give and what you are willing to give them.