Originally Posted by pig

scar: i'd suggest sitting back and asking yourself what marriage means to you, or what you'd like for it to mean. is there a type of 'officially committed' relationship you desire, or that makes logical sense to you? if so, why would you want it and how would it be structured? i used to be in the camp you're in: marriage is superfluous, mildly mysoginistic, and overly confining. in more recent years, as the idea of producing progeny enters my mind, i find that i can see a logical reason for marriage: a recognition and desire to attempt to provide a stable structure for replication of the Family. a series of legal benefits, and psychologically comforting structure to build from. if you don't see a reason to marry someone, then don't get married.