Thread: New Curious Bi
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Old 11-19-2007, 06:20 AM   #5 (permalink)
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Location: Louisville, KY... Via Boston, New Orleans, Chapel Hill, Kenya, seattle, and.. California cities.
Hi. Newer member on here. My name is Cathy. Here's my quandary, of sorts... I have never dated a woman, though I am aware of my natural inclinations and call myself bi. But... I am 47 years old and have never dated a woman. Seems like the "scene" among women-women dating is that you gotta be "knowledgeable" or "seasoned"... I also don't drink or go to lesbian bars or whatever... Am not into that scene at all... OR you gotta spell women as 'womyn' [I concede.. that one probably my own homophobic stereotyping kicking in]... and I'm not into THAT either.

In the meantime, I date men, am frank about my bi-ness.. and try to accept that my one soul-mate [male or female] will come along when I am ready for it.

And.... Ironically... I have a desire to explore my fem side in other ways... Because I have set off folks' "gaydar" with my dress... I dress very tomboyish, have short hair, etc... So... have been labeled as lesbian by my appearance [other folks' stereotyping there].... which I'm not that either...lol..

Aw, heck... I am just getting over a shift with a guy from 'friends with benefits' to 'friends'... painful shift.. so... I imagine I won't be dating at all for some time.. Will be celibate.. So what does this make me.. straight, bi, gay, or... non...?
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