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Originally Posted by Ustwo
When you figure out a good way to get over the loss of a child, let the world know.
This is not an uncommon side effect. Parents have pushed in the past for new legal protections after losing a child to what seemed a preventable thing, Megan's law being the most obvious example I can think of without research.
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I agree that this is not uncommon, and that there is no way ever to "get over it"... but my feeling is still that becoming so involved in the memory of their child is harmful.
I am not suggesting they should, or possibly could, forget them... but making the memory and the tragedy a central point of their life - by a campaign, a new law they want, or so on - is just going to cause more pain, over a longer period of time.
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Its a similar logic (although I dont for one second say it is the same thing) as people in prison who beat up sex offenders and paedophiles especially I think.
They dont do it so much because they feel some moral duty to... its more, its the only way when you are inside to somehow show you are a good parent. The fact of being in jail fundamentally is usually a bad thing, and most people in jail are bad parents - but beating up some nonce, showing your righteous anger - is somehow a proof to themselves and the world that they love their own kids.
And again - I do not suggest that these are equivalent things - only the same mechanism.