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Originally Posted by Yukimura
So, if environment does in fact shape us, then judgment of a person would be based on that person's inner strength, their ability to overcome their environment. To me that's something different than what the person is as a whole. I have a hard time being angry at a person for being weak. Environment can shape that too. Were it not for environment, how would we know whether we would be any stronger or weaker in our ability to overcome our environment? In that sense, maybe environment cannot be truly overcome, since it is at least a part of what gives you the ability to overcome as well. Inner strength and outer strength are both limited and beyond our control.
Therefore, judging a person is like judging the series of events that led to who they are today. I take the point of view that, had I been subjected to the same thing, I might be that person exactly. How do I know? So, every time I judge another, I judge myself and everyone else. There is so little that truly separates us.
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It depends on the action. My ex, for example. She was weak. And in that weakness lead to the worst betrayal I have ever had in my life. I know full well her history, and why these weaknesses are there. Her history, however, does not change that her actions were hers, and hers alone. I judge her, not on her history, which I respect her greatly for getting through, but on her actions at the time. Knowing full well how bad she would hurt me did it anyway.
I have hurt people in the past. Badly. I hold myself responsible for those actions, and have made amends when and where I could. I have judged myself, and try not to repeat the actions of who I was. I have standards and expectations I hold myself to. I expect no less from the people around me. I have known people that have come through worse then she or I did, and are much better people then either of us. They over came. I am trying to over come. She gave in. So I judge. And I do not feel like I have judged myself in anyway.