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Originally Posted by inBOIL
I have to take issue with this. While some rapes are motivated by hate, is it all that difficult to imagine a rape occuring purely out of a desire for sex? Of course there's the disregard for the rights or feelings of another person, but to make the jump from disregard to hatred seems extreme.
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I believe the notion that "rape is not about sex, it's about power/hate" was created to help rape victims disassociate the crime from normal sexual relations so that they could resume normal relations with their husbands.
If it's not at all about sex, then why does the guy have an erection? I don't know about other men, but when I'm busy with just about any nonsexual activity, I'm ususally in a flacid state.
I think that some rapists have a screwed up sexuality that makes putting a women in a helpless state and forcing sex on them a big turn-on. It's fucked up, but that's what turns them on.
As for the date-rape drugs, I disagree with the poster that consensual sex is so easy to get. For some men it is, but for men who's appearance & personality doesn't tend to trigger romantic/sexual feelings in women, consnesual sex can be very DIFFICULT to get, and dealing with the dating game and repeated rejections can be very frustrating, and we live in a culture where we're constantly told that if we're not getting laid on a regular basis, then something is wrong with is.
Now, having sex with a woman who is too drunk or drugged to communicate non-consent is rape and perpretrators should go to jail. But getting laid and the knowledge that your penis was in a real vagina and not your hand is what motivates it.