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I'm not one to apply stereotypes to people, or I try not to. I must confess though that a guy with a very high count would scare me away at first - though that doesn't mean I wouldn't give him a chance. The reasons are simple:
a) STD's
b) I've only had a couple of partners and I'd feel pressured on what he expects
c) Condescendence on his part (if we get that far into the relationship where h'es more comfortable) because of my lack of experience
That's all. I don't think it matters if you're going for something serious with the other person.
On the other hand, to flip things around - I sometimes worry when meeting new guys I fancy because I think once they know, they may find my lack of experience odd or a turn off - it's just the way my life has turned out, and the fact that I don't like to have sex with just any guy (I'm picky and emotional lol).
I don't feel it should be an issue, but if we're honest, of course people think about it! What matters is what you're comfortable with, all these PC ideas about not judging people is pointless, because we all do really, in one way or another.
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Whether we write or speak or do but look
We are ever unapparent. What we are
Cannot be transfused into word or book.
Our soul from us is infinitely far.
However much we give our thoughts the will
To be our soul and gesture it abroad,
Our hearts are incommunicable still.
In what we show ourselves we are ignored.
The abyss from soul to soul cannot be bridged
By any skill of thought or trick of seeming.
Unto our very selves we are abridged
When we would utter to our thought our being.
We are our dreams of ourselves, souls by gleams,
And each to each other dreams of others' dreams.
Fernando Pessoa, 1918
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