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Originally Posted by willravel
I don't factor in sexual attraction in my perception of credibility. Attention, sure, but credibility? No.
I use different nonverbal cues to ascertain credibility.
Speech patterns are very telling, usually. When someone repeats a word often, such as "actually" or "unfortunately", they are demonstrating either nervousness or a small vocabulary. Neither is a sign of credibility, imho. Poor language either communicates comfortability or an emotional response of some kind (and also possibly a limited vocabulary).
Eye movement is absolutely key. Where a person looks while communicating says more than the words they are saying, usually.
Top left = visually imagined images
Top right = visually remembered images
Left = auditory imagined
Right = auditory remembered
Bottom left = smell, feel, taste
Bottom right = internal dialogue
Whether this is innate, I don't know. I learned about this back in high school psych class and again in college (you can find info online about it, I found the image here: http://www.blifaloo.com/info/lies_eyes.php)
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Actually I agree with the sexual attraction comment, but
unfortunately I don't agree with the vocabulary bit. I don't equate vocabulary or education with intelligence or credibility. In fact I'm probably much more likely to find somebody dressed in blue jeans & a T-shirt more credible than somebody in a suit. I'm always reminded of salesmen (no offense meant towards Martian) when I see some one in a suit, who's trying to sell me something I don't need or something more than I need. Since I don't impulse buy & always research the product before I buy, I have little use for salesmen.
Since lying seems to be programmed into our DNA, the best way to judge credibility is by getting to know someone better. I rarely find new acquaintances credible, now matter how they dress, speak or in which direction their eyes move. A bold face liar is usually fairly easy to spot though.....
