Originally Posted by inBOIL

I never mentioned self-pity; a feeling of not getting what you need or should be getting is very different, as is desperation. As for the motivation being pity, I have a hard time believeing that most men would do that. They may convince themselves that they're doing it out of pity for their partner, but the true motivation has nothing to do with pity, either for themselves or their partner. Which is why I said that "pity fuck" is a misnomer.