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Pity fuck is something of a misnomer, imo. There's no sense of altruism, it's just a way of saying "I slept with someone I normally wouldn't, because I was desperate."

There's also more pressure on a man to get laid than there is on a woman. The biological pressure alone is significant, and it seems there aren't many women who really understand this. It's sort of like having to pee. Often, you can easily hold it until you get home. Sometimes you just have to find a nearby restroom that you would prefer to avoid. But if you wait long enough, you may find yourself in an alley behind a dumpster, looking over your shoulder and hoping that nobody sees you. Sure, you'd prefer to do your business in more pleasant environs, but you're getting antsy and your body is screaming at you "TAKE CARE OF THIS NOW!"

Now, it's not just biology exerting pressure. If it were, rubbing one out would always suffice. But a hand is a poor substitute for a vagina, mainly because of what's attatched to it. Having sex with another person is, of course, a much more rewarding experience; there's stuff you get with sex that you never get from whacking off. The same kind of urgency can apply to getting all of this extra stuff.

On top of all this, there's the psychological pressure. Women have to deal with societal judgements and pressure concering "slutty" behavior. Many of them internalize this and begin judging themselves. Similarly, men deal with and internalize societal judgement and pressure concerning our ability to get some. The sweet release of masturbation is tempered by a bitter aftertaste - the realization that you're getting a one-arm workout because you weren't able to get a woman to join you. This is cumulative; the longer you go without getting laid, the more acutely you feel the shame.

The pressure from all of these sources combines to form a potent motivator, an almost irresistable urge to find someone, anyone, to go home with. This is something that most women don't seem to have any direct experience with.