my take on these issues is to take whatever approach you would normally take with one of your guy friends. if you'd be pissed and not talk to him for a week, then do that with her. if you'd call him up to get to the bottom of the situation, then do that.
the sex will sort of take care of itself. if she perceives, as ustwo points out (in a certain fashion), that you treat her exactly like to treat everyone else, not only will you meet abaya's 'don't tread on me, you sexist motherfucker' quota, but she'll simultaneously wonder where you got your dolemite balls from.
or else the next one will, but regardless you can sleep at night knowing you were true to yourself, and not some ridiculous game you were playing. life can be really simple if you let it.
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