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Well, I can only echo the advice given so far. Which it sounds like has been given over and over. Everyone's situation is different, it is their own, and so it is also up to them in how they deal with it. Sounds like Shauk is finally doing something about it. Every person has to come to that realization, that nothing is going to change unless you start to make changes. And once you do, it'll be confusing still, you might have an idea of what that change needs to be but if you are in a comfort zone, it's hard. Change IS hard but so rewarding. People can give you advice until it sounds like a broken record, but hopefully some day it sinks in.
Personally I wouldn't be content to just let it go, the sex with other people. But again, I'm not in that situation so it's more of an outside view. It's easy to look at a situation you aren't in and say what you would do if you were, but once there infinitely harder to make that same decision, especially when emotions are involved. My husband cheated on me at the beginning of our relationship, I forgave him and now we've been married for 2 years and I do love him. There are time when I wonder if I made the right decision regardless of the fact that I love him and I know that the person I was a few years before meeting him wouldn't have been so forgiving, yes people do change. But you can't put your life on hold for them. No matter how much you care. You can move on with your life (no matter how hard that is) and they can move on with theirs.
You know what, that's all I can say. I'm repeating others and you have to make your decisions for you. So good luck, hope your search for an apartment goes well and you can move as soon as possible. Seattle sounds like a fantastic place to be.
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Cain: I know what you're doing. I've lead troops into battle before.
DG: And, how am I doing?
Cain: Well, there's less *hugging* when I do it
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