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Originally Posted by willravel
Used for sex? There are two consenting adults who each get something from the experience. It's mutually beneficial. I apologize for the following question, but ask yourself if you've ever slept with someone you're not attracted to. If the answer is yes, then you either found other redeeming qualities (such as those outlined in the OP) or you didn't. If the answer is no, then you support my theory that women do this less often than men.
As for the public service, as I said there is mutuality in the experience. The profit is mutual. The experience is mutual. The pleasure is mutual. The man benefits, and the woman benefits.
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I am referring back again to the attitude professed in the OP combined with your assertion that somehow physical appearance necessarily enhances the sexual experience. Especially for people who are popularly deemed to be unattractive.
And to answer your question, the only people I have slept with who I deem to be 'unattractive' were not
physically unattractive. I found them to be dull and uninteresting people who I just happened to end up with because they wanted me and I was mentally available. Consequently, I have most often had sex with men who are thought to be 'unattractive' - and, in those cases, with much enthusiasm.
And I was never commenting on whether men or women do this more often.
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Originally Posted by Ustwo
As a man, if a very attractive woman felt sorry for me being alone at a party and then suggested we go have sex that night, I would not be offended. My ego would be hurt if I found out, but not hurt enough to say no.
Odds are I'd be very eager in bed as well.
Such is the difference between men and women.
I'd also point out that we are talking casual sex here. Its been known that the criteria we pick for recreational sex are different than the ones we pick for a relationship.
For recreational sex, women act a lot like men, for relationships, things change.
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I'm not saying that the woman might be offended.
I am objecting (and bear with me, because I am figuring all this out while I type) to the attitudes about how physical appearance enhances the sexual experience. I think it is a myth that has been thoroughly absorbed into popular attitudes...and the avenues for an acceptable 'level of attractiveness' are being narrowed by our increasing pre-occupation with appearance. Thereby making exclusion from these avenues something to be pitied and primary to any other attributes that person may have - besides what they might be able to 'bring to the bed' with them in the way of eagerness to please that kind, benevolent beautiful person.
As with most subjects I get into these heightened discussions about, it always comes back to my disillusionment with the increasing shallowness of modern society -oh, and most significantly, the arrogant justifications of that shallowness.