Originally Posted by MrFriendly

Haha, a topic no doubt discussed many a time before.

Having a friend of the opposite sex is a tricky path, but I honestly don't understand the guys that let them selves become the cuddle / emotional support bitch when they have other intentions. It seems completely unfair on themselves, and unfair on the girl they're friends with.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not kidding myself. I've been the guy madly inlove with a close female friend. But I didn't have any expectations. I wasn't being nice and a good friend to secretly get laid. Mind you, I'm not the most sexually driven person to grace the earth.

If you're going to befriend someone of the opposite sex, then for love of god be honest with YOURSELF. Are you doing this because you're secretly chasing tail, or are you doing this because you genuinely like hanging around them and enjoy their company? If it's the former you should really think about making your intentions known and save everyone all the bullshit.

I used to be the guy with self esteem issues who never thought much of himself. Really, after a while you figure out that feeling sorry for yourself doesn't really get you anywhere, and it certainly doesn't make people attracted to you. You don't have to be an asshole to get what you want in this life, you just have to grow some stones and be honest with yourself, in other words, be confident in what you're doing.

It's easier said than done, I know. But one of the things that really help me break out of the "I'm a nice guy and I always finish last whaaa whaaa whaa" was just getting out and doing stuff I really enjoy and like doing, and more importantly, doing these things alone. It's a good way to meet people, not for the sake of picking up, just for the sake of meeting new faces. All those things help you to find the happiness and fulfillment you need from within to become a more confident person.

So, if you're one of the 'nice' guys sitting on your ass at home wondering why you never get laid and feeling sorry for yourself, then all I have to say is harden the fuck up. Get off your ass and start doing something you enjoy instead of stewing in your own bitter juices.