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Originally Posted by Crompsin
(hangs head in shame)
Man, this was me like three months ago.
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You'll be okay, brother... Wild Turkey 101 cures all.
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Heh heh. thanks. It really helps to hear that other people have gone through the same thing. So sad that breakups are a fact of life.
dirtyrascal7: Yeah, channeling depression into something positive really doesn't make sense. Let me try to be more clear. Hrm... I think it's more of a "I'll show her" mentality. Is that healthy? I don't know. But it has been motivating the shit out of me to improve myself so I'm going to stick with it.
EDIT: one more thing. It has been really therapeutic to think of her as a good well meaning person. I know it sounds strange, but when I have bitter thoughts about her, I feel awfully hurt. But when I remind myself that she is a decent person, it's a like a big burden is lifted off my shoulders. When we were dating, we definitely had our problems, but she was a decent person and that hasn't changed. I'm depressed that our relationship is over, but that's just how things went. I guess.
I think this is similar to how people who hold grudges against others are going to be bitter and mad and just can't let go of all of the negative emotion. But people who can forgive move on and are much happier off. Even though forgiving seems like more of a compromise and bowing to the other person, it is really more beneficial than holding a grudge. cool!