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Originally Posted by soma
i'm going to try to channel my depression into something positive. Like working out and working hard at school. That's my plan so far.
I don't know. It just sucks how quickly she got over me. I talked with her today and it felt like i was nothing to her. Less than a week ago she was telling me how much she missed me and how she wanted me back. *shrug
How have all of you dealt with heartbreak?
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It can be very tough to channel depression into something positive because, frankly, being depressed is very distracting.
Some people deal with breakups by trying to purge their world of memories and reminders, which I suppose can work... but I personally hate that idea. To me, doing that seems to undermine all the time and effort I put into the relationship. It's like all the sudden you're trying to erase part of your memory in order to get rid of the bad feelings, but you also lose the valuable lessons and all the good memories as well.
I say, embrace the pain. Some of the most intense moments of my life, where I've felt completely alive, have been those where I'm in excruciating agony and heartache. At the time it sucks and you just want it to end, but trust me... it's better than being completely numb and emotionless.
My suggestion -- find yourself a few songs that remind you of her or that you really connect with... turn out the lights and lay on the floor... turn up the volume... and just let your emotions flow. When you're done, turn the lights back on and look in the mirror. You're still here. You're still alive and healthy. Now, make a list of things that are most important to you, and focus on those things for the next few weeks. Really take the time to value them and appreciate them. It does help.