IL, let me put this to you bluntly but as nice as possible because i dont want to risk my membership on this board.
While I understand where you are coming from IL, I don't understand why you are being so negative for something you have no experience in. and while others too have had no experience on the matter, their advice has been HELPFUL. it was constructive.
If in every thread you look to start something like this then you don't belong here. Then you need to find somewhere else to go and vent or do whatever it is you do, because for someone who says he reads, it doesnt look like you do it well.
I have been thinking about this for a long long time. and even though it might not happen right now, because i believe that with age comes wisdom ( as you will soon learn too), it will happen in future.
and maybe seeing as you havn't treid it either, maybe you should keep an open mind about it?
i mean, the people here who are trying to help me are doing it in a constructive and helpful manner and they are not saying that it wouldn't cause problems and they not saying it wouldn't ruin my relationship.
they telling me to be careful but if it's what i want then i should go for it and i should think things through thouroughly before i even consider anything.
they not telling me "don't do it because i learned in my class of so and so that threesomes are bad and they will sure as anything ruin" what i've built with my healer for four and a half years.
I do realise that it is a risk, as i have already said. but it's one i'm willing to take.
there are people here who are married double the amount of time healer and i have been together and i bet that some of them have already had threesomes, i mean, just look at ratbastid (by the way, you and your gals are an inspiration) and nothing has happened to them. and maybe they just the lucky few, but if i dont believe that i am one of those lucky few and if i dont believe that healer and i can make through anything then what have i got?
nothing in life is certain IL, nothing. because you cant say that 20 years from now or even 10 when you are in your sexual prime and your SO at the time wants a threesome or wants to at least have a discussion with you about it...you telling me that you not going to talk to them about it, you not even going to consider having the conversation even though it's something your SO really really wants?
i highly doubt that. or at least i hope you're not one of that kind of person because i know no one else here is.
stella, i don't know if the girl i found is interested and i have no one else in mind. but i really really want this girl. i've spoken to her lightly about the threesome subject and how i'm trying to find a nice girl for healer and myself...someone i know whom i trust and i just keep throwing hints about asking her but i dont know if she's purposefully letting it fly over her head or if she's just not getting it
she did say one day that we'd have to get someone who is straight and i told the that that wasn't a prerequisite and she seemed interested? but i'm not too sure. i'm wondering if i should just come out and say it?
"Sweetie, I want to have a threesome with you!"
wow!!! lol