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Originally Posted by ratbastid
I don't know for a fact, but I suspect you're closer to the first of those numbers?
When I was around the first of those numbers, I felt much the same--that I'd stay the same person, with the same talents and limitations and comfort zones, as I aged. As I approach the second number, I'm realizing more and more how much time DOES change a person, and how much a person can grow as they mature. I guarantee you, I'm much more able to handle issues and jealousies in my relationship now than I was even five years ago. CERTAINLY more than I was when lurkette and I first met, when I was 17. I look back on the naive certainty I had about life then with fondness and a little embarrassment.
When I was back toward that first number, hearing anyone express this notion seemed condescending to me. I apologize if it seems that way to you.
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Exactly. Until you have matured with that 'love of your life' for a while I don't think such relationships are possible. Hell I used to be close to insanely jealous. Time does change us and yes with age does in fact come wisdom if you are willing to be introspective.
You know ratbastid we both know what we are talking about here but its like trying to explain sex to a virgin who is convinced what sex is like. Its interesting how someone who was 5 when I met my wife is going to tell me how these things work.
I'm happily married after being together for 17 years, I'm doing SOMETHING right. I could only hope everyone finds such a 'runed' relationship
