Originally Posted by Marrrlee

I can't seem to get this topic out of my mind.
In retrospect, both my husband ( ex, now)and I were positive in every way, that we were mature enough to handle every aspect of this situation. We talked at length about all the pros and cons. The anticipation of the reality was titillating. We decided on a dear friend of mine, whom we both admired for her emotional stability. we talked at length, with her about the "game". After months of weighing all the facts, it was decided. And, it was one of the most satisfying intimate moments in my life. We pulled it off without a hitch. With everyone going home smiling.
It was about 3 months later, a mutual friend of the three of us, told me confidentially, that my husband and my friend were seen at different places together; restaurants, motels, etc. I thought for sure there was some logical explanation. But, there wasn't.
He refused to stop seeing her without me, but also said, he didn't want to lose me. What a horrifying nightmare I lived through.
Elvis Presley in one of his songs said,
"If you bring a friend into your love affair, that's the end of your sweetheart, that's the end of your friend, that's when your heartache begins" "When dreams of a lifetime must come to an end, "
just my input on the subject. perhaps a little daunting, but just another way of looking at it...the excitement can be squelched like a bucket of cold water in your face. And I really do not mean to rain on anyones parade.