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Originally Posted by behindalens
I am really surprised that so many people voiced their opinion on this. I think they're really great answers. I'm tending to find that I agree on the non-college preferences. But I also think there is a real strong case for university side.
I guess I have the privilege of attending one of the best universities (UC Berkeley). Although this didn't speak for the majority of the population, the people I met/dated there were generally able to have many of the qualities that many of us share: most often they were socially-aware, quick-witted, and generally interesting and passionated individuals. I found that many were able to just pick up and issue and see the various complexities and vague points of a conversation. I don't see this as false advertising. It was like a sort of bubble--sure many people fell into the the stereotypes that Ustwo so wittedly pointed out, however generally many of the people were deeper than that and often times from conversation you could see that.
I also think that many people there weren't just the general representative of the Rich Kid advantage being groomed to replace their parent's social heirachy. There were many people who clawed their way into that school with many life stories worth telling, and, even better, worth learning from. I think in that case, that was how I started the college-education bias. For me, I saw an abundance of qualities that others complained they did not see in the college system.
However, as my good friends now gleefully remind me, you're not in Berkeley anymore. So, I am at the point where I refine my current bias. There is something to attending Berkeley, maybe other schools. I'm not sure I can say the same for the majority of other colleges.
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Universities, for all of their short comings, do focus often like minded individuals in one place.
TFP has a lot of very 'socially aware' people which means you can't ever say something is better than something else. Everyone is quite ready to tell you the exceptions to the rules, as if they were the rules.
I know women who did not go to college who are very smart, witty, and worthy of dating.
I know women who went to a major university who aren't worthy of bringing me fries.
That doesn't mean there isn't a positive bias with college educated individuals over non-college educated.
The problem is after you graduate, you are normally back into the gene pool at large. Added to that, the better women have already been 'locked up' while in college. I snagged mine while she was an 18 year old freshman before she could even test her market value
The older you get the harder good women will be to find.
So while the kind of women you are interested in are out there and available, they are scattered, and difficult to identify.
As to how to find them, well I can't say I know for sure as it depends on what type of you are looking for. You won't find engineer types at the same place you find tree huggers, that sort of thing.