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Ilow · 10-12-2007, 05:27 AM

I have been in a few serious relationships with girls who did not finish college. The most recent one (an ex/gf) was quite bright (I guess a tribute to her catholic school education?). I happened to give her an IQ test as part of my own training for school, and she scored almost two standard deviations above the average college grad, which is possibly why she was so interesting as a person. She did, however have some hangups and insecurities about her lack of a college education. She would almost never hang out with me when I was with my grad school friends, and would generally avoid other circumstances where she might be with a majority of college educated people. I think she thought that they would judge her (which is quite unlikely). It made for a good bit of awkwardness at times. When she left me, I think she went off with an artist who didn't finish school, maybe there's something to that.
There is nothing magical about college, it is almost like high school used to be, but as long as everybody does not go, it is still a small accomplishment. It does not mean that you have some great motivation, or are brilliant, however, I still believe that it provides a leg up. Without it I think that you do need a special kind of motivation to get what you want out of life. How does this affect dating? Well, I think that most people like to be with someone who is interesting, a little goal oriented (not just for the money), and smart; whether this comes from a college education or not is somewhat irrelevant, but I (in my probably biased way) believe that it can be slightly more common in college educated people.
As an aside, more and more women are going to college, and fewer men, what does this say, and how will it affect future dating habits?

10-12-2007, 05:27 AM	#14 (permalink)
Ilow Junkie Location: Pats country	I have been in a few serious relationships with girls who did not finish college. The most recent one (an ex/gf) was quite bright (I guess a tribute to her catholic school education?). I happened to give her an IQ test as part of my own training for school, and she scored almost two standard deviations above the average college grad, which is possibly why she was so interesting as a person. She did, however have some hangups and insecurities about her lack of a college education. She would almost never hang out with me when I was with my grad school friends, and would generally avoid other circumstances where she might be with a majority of college educated people. I think she thought that they would judge her (which is quite unlikely). It made for a good bit of awkwardness at times. When she left me, I think she went off with an artist who didn't finish school, maybe there's something to that. There is nothing magical about college, it is almost like high school used to be, but as long as everybody does not go, it is still a small accomplishment. It does not mean that you have some great motivation, or are brilliant, however, I still believe that it provides a leg up. Without it I think that you do need a special kind of motivation to get what you want out of life. How does this affect dating? Well, I think that most people like to be with someone who is interesting, a little goal oriented (not just for the money), and smart; whether this comes from a college education or not is somewhat irrelevant, but I (in my probably biased way) believe that it can be slightly more common in college educated people. As an aside, more and more women are going to college, and fewer men, what does this say, and how will it affect future dating habits? __________________ "Religion is the one area of our discourse in which it is considered noble to pretend to be certain about things no human being could possibly be certain about" --Sam Harris