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Originally Posted by Shauk
i think a simple way to figure this out is...
establish what is and is not an acceptable threshold of income for a male to achieve for "having money"
see how many on one side of that line are married
see how many on the other side of that line are married.
compare the happiness level of the married trailer park couple vs the married couple living in thier 2-3 story house with the white picket fence.
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Actually this wouldn't work, the reason being that normally you don't meet your future mates after you have money.
I'm doing fine now, but when I met my wife I was a typical unemployed college student who couldn't offer her more then the occational dinner at olive garden.
Now there is a theory (and a 'real' one from guys with PhD's and the like) that what women find attractive at this point is traits which would give you the potential of future success.
So confidence, intelligence, a good social network, etc are all things which might clue off a young woman that this guy will someday be rich/important. The difference between this and the ladder theory is this is all unconscious. Few young women are thinking 'mmm lets see he has friends, is intelligent, and seems to have it together, I bet some day he makes 6 figures', its more of a 'Wow what a great guy'.
I was pre-med when I met my wife, and we used to joke about 'the test'. This is when you were getting serious with a girl you would tell her you decided to skip med school and instead go into research and get a masters, maybe stay at the university.
Now for the fun part, my wife, then gf, failed the test. She was pretty worried about the whole perpetual student life I laid out for myself. To me this was a good thing because I already knew she was insanely in love with me, but her reasons for me not doing a life of laboratory work were the same as my own so I couldn't really fault her.