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The way I see it if you've become someones intellectual whore or cuddle bitch it's because you've let yourself become that.
If you want to fuck them and be more than friends than you should have made that intention clear in the first place.
The reason you "Fall off the ladder" when you try to jump ladder is because chances are these people trusted you as a friend and didn't have to worry about the run of the mill bullshit from you that they get from everyone else. Then it turns out all you wanted to do was fuck.
I know a lot of the time, if the gender rolls were reversed, the guys maybe wouldn't mind so much. However, I've seen this happen a lot of times to guy friends and they've flat out turned their friend down because they just didn't seem their friend in that way. But hey, if people actually give a crap about the friendship you'll both get over it.
People can and do come up with all sorts of theories to explain social interaction and will be able to find a group of people to apply that to. But they're not hard and fast rules to be obeyed and the chances are that for every person you can apply it to there's a bunch of other where that shit just wont fly.
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