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Originally Posted by Jadey
I keep wondering how those people are going to feel when they are not invited.
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That is something you have to develop a thick skin about, because otherwise, you're going to get screwed. 280 people?!??! Christ. In the end, just because people are nosy and asking about your wedding (probably because they do want to be invited, just so they can schmooze a gourmet dinner and free booze off you for one night) doesn't mean you should be guilted into inviting them. My husband didn't invite any of his co-workers because if he invited one, then he'd have to invite all of them (and their wives), which would have added several thousand to our budget. No way. Pick a number of people that you can afford, and then MAKE THE GUEST LIST FIT THE BUDGET. Not the other way around, I say. You are in control, not your acquaintances who want to get drunk for free.
Also ask yourself if any of those people would invite you to their wedding... if not, scratch them off. It's a purely economical decision. People should understand that if they're not invited, it's not personal... and if they think it's personal, then that's their problem. Seriously, DO NOT LET THE WEDDING INDUSTRIAL COMPLEX ANNIHILATE YOUR HOUSE DOWNPAYMENT!!!
As for DJ, do you really need one? We had a friend do ours, he's a real music whiz, and it went great... he refused to be paid, but we gave him and his wife a nice dinner gift certificate. Less than $100. You can do this with all parts of the wedding planning... localize, don't get sucked in by the vendors, do some things yourself, minimize. It's all possible, we planned ours in 5 weeks from start to finish. You have plenty of time.
Have you looked around at the website I mentioned earlier? They have tons of helpful money-saving suggestions...