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Originally Posted by Average_Joe
Perhaps, the statement about “feeling sorry for those who don’t share your level of togetherness and trust” felt too “elitist” to me.
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I wouldn't call it elitist, I'd call it almost pity. I've seen so many couples with issues in their marriages and relationships. So many jealous wives and husbands, afraid that every time they go on a business trip their spouse may cheat, so many issues focused around sex, that I really do feel sorry for them. Its a pointless suffering thats imposed upon people based on societies recent and I think unrealistic sexual expectations.
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Does having a 3-some result in a feeling of higher trust and togetherness? From what I have gathered from multiple threads around the TFP – yes. Are there couples out there that also cultivate a high sense of trust and togetherness without having a 3-some? Again, yes. Perhaps these people don’t want it to be implied that their relationship is inferior.
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Actually having a threesome doesn't mean higher trust and togetherness in itself. It was GG's description of her feelings after that makes me think they did it 'right' and were able to see their relationship in a new light. There really is nothing special about doing it in a threesome, thats just one way, but I can't think of a way to really separate sexual jealousy and the like from your relationship without something like that. Maybe its possible, and it doesn't mean you have a bad relationship but being able to put the sexual baggage behind you and not basing the strength of your relationship with imposed fidelity is really a great feeling. You can't know that until you test it.
The problem of course is with any test you might fail and thats where the destructive aspects of this sort of thing can come in.