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Originally Posted by Ourcrazymodern?
I don't get it. Whose soap opera is it, anyway, yours or hers? Not to sound not "emo", man, but everybody empathized and gave you good advice, and you moved 300 miles to be with the source of your dismay.
While I understand the power of a vaginal wrench (with apologies to any ladies here), I just don't get it.
I hope it works out for you.
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theres not much to get.
you guys gave advice that didn't mesh with my long term plans.
plus if there is even a chance that she's not fucking around, I'd question it for the rest of my life, and I can't have that shit kicking around in my head. I've already heen bitter towards relationships for the last year in general.
one thread isn't going to change my world view. Hell, it's so easy for everyone to say "run" "run away" "run as fast as you can"
Hell i've given the same advice, but i've also noticed that theres no allowance given for mistakes.
the core of the situation as to why we broke up a year ago is no longer an issue for either of us, so in essence, that was resolved. what remains is that we had a solid relationship aside from that, that we've cared for each other through some tough shit over the last year even through we were broken up.
so in my mind, we still could "live happily ever after" if we talk it over and get back to where we left off at least.
I also believe your environment has a bit to do with your personal conduct, Seattle could be an entirely different chapter in this book than Idaho ever could be.
I'm sure some people who read this are just annoyed that I don't accept advice, think i'm stubborn just because "it's not what I want to hear" and thats fine. Maybe what's right for you isn't whats right for me though.
that said, the way I see it, it's either a horizontal move, or a step up from my current situation no matter the outcome.
I mean if nothing happens between us, then great, ill still be in a better place, i'll still have a friend.
if something does happen between us, then great, i'll still be in a better place, and I'll have someone I love closer to me in my life.
I wouldn't be surprised at all if we get back together and do just fine for another 5 years+
however, worst case scenario, She'll set me up to move over there, she'll do something to fuck it up, I'll get pissed at her for wasting my time again, which means I'll be able to let her go this time. I think it's a lot easier for me to let go the 2nd time around if things just suck. It worked for one of my other relationships really well *shrug*
"if at 1st you don't succeed, try try again"
plus, cmon, i'm giving you all a SWEET opportunity to be like "I TOLD YOU SO!"
just roll with it.