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Originally Posted by ratbastid
I'm all for inclusiveness, but... if you haven't been there, you just don't know what Ustwo is talking about.
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Well, I haven’t been there, so I can’t say that I’ve felt the same way as other couples who have been there. I suppose it’s a feeling of having shared something special, a new level of excitement, which results in a tighter bond. Furthermore, since non-monogamous relationships are considered taboo by most of society, I suppose there is a sense of freedom attached as well. But, again, since not having been there, I can only speculate.
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Originally Posted by ratbastid
I see all these couples around me with such narrow views of what's possible, and such straight-laced, culture-imposed opinions about what relationships are supposed to be. I don't know what's best for them, and I definitely don't think my lifestyle is for everyone, but I DO feel sorry for people whose world-view doesn't allow them to say how their lives and relationships and modes of sexual expression are going to go.
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Perhaps that's what Ustwo's quote was trying to imply as well, but that's not how I interpreted it. Having a closed-minded view of relationships does not equate to a lack of one's trust and togetherness in a relationship. They are separate.
Perhaps, the statement about “feeling sorry for those who don’t share your level of togetherness and trust” felt too “elitist” to me. Does having a 3-some result in a feeling of higher trust and togetherness? From what I have gathered from multiple threads around the TFP – yes. Are there couples out there that also cultivate a high sense of trust and togetherness without having a 3-some? Again, yes. Perhaps these people don’t want it to be implied that their relationship is inferior.