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Originally Posted by Sharon
What Sultana said. Most attractive women know that the way they look holds a lot of power over guys, but the flipside is that sometimes it means we have to do what we can to manage the number of guys who are interested. We just don't have the time to deal with all that, and it can be quite overwhelming. The other problem is that it's hard to know what men's motives are, and if they are interested from the get go, it's natural to assume that they are interested because of the way we look, and therefore their interest is purely sexual. Now I can't speak for every girl here but when I was young and naive I got burned many times by falling for a guy who turned out to only be interested in me for my looks. So forgive me if I'm wary of you, and if I maybe appear a little aloof at first.
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In my single days that was frustrating for me because many of these same women would complain that there were no good single men, or that all the good men were married or gay. I felt insulted by that becuase I was neither, yet they still acted aloof toward me, gave me fake phone numbers, or claimed to be "busy" when I aksed them out.
Is it really that difficult to tell the difference between the guy who just wants to bang you and move to his next conquest, and the guy who is looking for a relationship based on more than just looks?
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Originally Posted by MrSelfDestruct
Self esteem is not about how others perceive you, it's about yourself.
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It appears that getting lots of sexual advances from the opposite sex is good for the self-esteme of men, but bad for women.