I like both, really... and I used to be the sort who would fight down to figurative raw knuckles in order to prove myself as right, rather than dial it back in the name of happiness for all.
I have, over some time on these boards, learned that sometimes one must relinquish being "right" in the name of harmony. In fact, it's downright necessary for our community.
What I think I've done to compensate is simply make sure my opinion is asserted confidently, and be true to myself- and then I'm left happy enough that I've at least said my peace.
