saw the thread in ladies lounge
here.
so since us guys can't post there, here we go...
and in the same vein
I guess I'll start with what I got.
1. Relatively "in shape", admittedly shallow in some regards, since I'm highly turned off by obesity, but it ties in to the energy level of the person as well. I'm not talking supermodel thin either, but just not like twice the weight you should be.
2. Energetic "capable" Again sometimes I like to go out for an entire day on foot, be it urban exploration, camping, or whatever. I'm not always active so...
3. Chill, The ability to relax and properly assess when it is a good time to relax. I have had issues with people being extremely neurotic about things that just dont matter when all I wanted to do was relax and have a nice day off together.
4. Intellectual. The ability to hold a conversation about various aspects of the finer points of life, Philosophy, Religion, politics (minimally), Sociology, and the more geek side of life, Technology, gaming, music, art.
5. A genuine love of music. Not the type of person who's content with what tv and radio feeds them, someone who will spend their entire day off (but not every day off) just sometimes looking and listening to people/bands/artists that they've never heard before, has an interest in the industry and how it is modeled.
6. Demanding... strange one huh? well, I find this one to be helpful to me due to my own personal flaw of being content with routine. I need someone to keep me on my toes, to present challenges and goals for me to attain that I may have otherwise overlooked. I look at life like a game, I request the synergy that you would find between a game designer and a player of said game.
7. Driven... kind of the flipside of the previous. If I present a challenge or a goal to a person, something I know they are capable of, I'd like to see that come to life.
8. Sexual, and good at it. Again, maybe shallow of me, I don't care, if you suck in bed, you're gone. I can't be bothered to breath life into someone who lays there like a corpse and expects me to want to repeat that experience with them. Not offended by porn or the topic of sex, perhaps even a little fascinated by it.
9. Independent. Not someone who's going to expect me to work full time to support them because I have my own goals. Attaining those would allow me to live comfortably.
10. and the biggest one, ability to trust. I know I have to earn it, but I am someone that measures himself up to achieving the standard of being trustworthy. I find a wallet that is full of money and isn't mine, I return it, someone tells me something in confidence, I do my best to keep it to myself, if I commit to an exclusive relationship, I wouldn't cheat on that person, period. I hate dealing with a year of sorting out your ghosts in the closet about how xyz did this or that to you, I'm not that person, don't measure me against scum, it's insulting. Likewise, I wan't to be able to trust the person i'm with
the smaller things.
non smoker
law abiding (except for piracy, and traffic, I can handle that)
no children
no STD's
I could probably make a large list but this will suffice for now in the nature of "10"
and, balls in your court gents.