1. Doesn't wince at a black and/or subversive sense of humor and ideally has one himself.
2. Doesn't question his very existence because I choose to lay in bed with a book all day on a Sunday.
3. Doesn't turn away from reality when it gets ugly or uncomfortable, rather delves into it and tries to understand.
4. Defines himself by how he thinks rather than what he does.
5. Sex all night, baby (and a decidedly adventurous spirit in the bedroom
).
6. Not embarrassed by public displays of affection.
7. Loves art, books, music, films and can talk about them with thoughtfulness and insight.
8. Not overly attentive to his looks, but knows when his pants are too short and a hideous shirt when he sees one (ie, simple but good taste in clothing).
9. Makes a living.
10. A compulsion towards kindness first.
I realize that I ask for a lot, but I'm tired of pretending these things aren't important to me. It's certainly not necessary that any one person exhibit all of these qualities - I don't know if I even could come up with ten qualities that someone
had to have to hold my interest. Some of these are more negotiable than others.