Originally Posted by ngdawg

And, many times, there are multiple "right persons".

I, for one, do not internalize and have the trail of dropped jaws, destroyed businesses and former friends to prove it. On the other hand, both my spouse and one of my good male friends never speak their minds until they blow a gasket. In fact, I only know of one guy in my life that speaks his mind-there's also been research that suggests that men that internalize suffer heart attacks and strokes more often than women and that women's health, in general, is better because we don't internalize. (Gee, even learning things in class can be biased based on who's teaching it, maybe.)