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Originally Posted by rlbond86
I do see what your argument, but there are some things that men and women are just wired differently for, in general. That is not to say it isn't without exception, but surely the two genders needed to evolve different social behaviors to survive best. As much research has shown (according to my Communications class), women tend to internalize, while men externalize. And while, yes, generalizations are bad, some things just are different.
I do, however, agree that experiences play a very significant role.
If anything, this thread strengthens the fact that there is no "magic trick" to make you more appealing to the opposite sex in general. On the flip side, everyone wants such different things, the right person who wants everything you have to offer is out there.  |
And, many times, there are multiple "right persons".
What was appealing 10 years ago to someone might be a total turn-off now and vice versa. Yes, due to experiences playing a significant role.
I think, as much as we want "different things", we all want respect and to be loved for who we are, shortcomings and all.
And there are always going to be exceptions to what you learn in class-very important to remember. I, for one, do not internalize and have the trail of dropped jaws, destroyed businesses and former friends to prove it.
On the other hand, both my spouse and one of my good male friends never speak their minds until they blow a gasket. In fact, I only know of one guy in my life that speaks his mind-there's also been research that suggests that men that internalize suffer heart attacks and strokes more often than women and that women's health, in general, is better because we
don't internalize. (Gee, even learning things in class can be biased based on who's teaching it, maybe.)