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Honestly, I almost wonder if there is a different reason behind her not wanting to work on loosing weight. Her simply eating less I would think would make her loose some weight, maybe shes overeating when your not around. Being a little overweight myself, I think her using the excuse of not wanting to be sweaty is just that...an excuse. If someone seriously hates the way they look and all it took was working out for them to see that drastic of a change they would stick with it regardless of hating sweating. What seems odd to me is that she stuck with it for two weeks lost the 20 pounds and then quit. The excitement of loosing that much weight would outweigh the discomfort of sweating for most people who really want to loose the weight. Maybe instead of having the you need to loose weight talk with her, you should try the whats keeping you from trying to loose weight talk. Maybe she sees a problem in the relationship and is overeating, especially if that is her defense mode, (gaining weight when parents got divorced). Also if your wedding date is drawing near, most brides are doing everything in there power to fit in the "perfect" dress. Maybe she is connecting something with your wedding and her parents divorce, bad associations can make people do crazy things.
I don't necessarily think your a bastard, but you do need to seriously think about why it is so important to you that she looses the weight. I would hope that you would more be thinking along the lines of "I love her so much that I don't want her life being cut short because she is an unhealthy weight" instead of "I want to know what its like to be intimate with a thinner girl."
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Frivolity, at the edge of a Moral Swamp, hears Hymn-Singing in the Distance and dons the Galoshes of Remorse. ~Edward Gorey
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